Ending unhealthy patterns and changing the dynamics in relationships is haarrrd. Especially the relationship you have with yourself.
Often you can not see your own repeat behavior in a relationship because the emotional ties and attachments make it much harder to see.
This is why we have an intuitive voice. An inner knowing that whispers and eventually screams “Knock it off and change it up!”
But change can also feel haarrrd. And if the change you want is accompanied by risks and fears (and most are) it will slow down you actually following through with what feels best.
So how do you know you are moving in the right direction for you? Because your choice may feel scary, but it also feels like freedom. Being on the other side FEELS like freedom.
And because you have an arsenal of proof that when you do hard things and follow through with tough decisions, the details work themselves out.
The emotions balance themselves out. The fear dissipates when you see that this change you’ve been putting off is EXACTLY what you needed and will progress you forward to even more freedom and love of life.
If you’re not there yet, the hints and clues will keep coming and the voice will get louder. The discomfort will grow. And it’s your call. What will you choose?
Fear or trust in yourself, your abilities and knowledge that Life supports you when you support yourself.
Maybe it’s time to make the unknown a known.